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Friday, March 26, 2010

No One is "Showing Me the Money"


I'm writing this post to address an extremely rude and inappropriate e-mail I received yesterday from a reader who is, and I quote, "fed up with all the crap I write". Of course, I contemplated letting this one slide since it's not the first nor will it be the last of its kind. I'm constantly amazed by how incredibly obnoxious people can be with total strangers. While I have several readers I correspond with on a regular basis who seek my advice and request specific bag reviews from me, I'm sad to admit that e-mails like the one I got last night are far more frequent.

Let me state what I hope is an obvious observation - I write about purses. They're just bags, folks. No need to get so antagonistic about a difference in opinion. No need to call me stupid, an idiot, a fat slob that doesn't know the difference between Chanel and Lanvin and will never own an Hermés bag. I can only imagine that a truly miserable human being takes pleasure in insulting someone they've never met for no reason at all. I, however, am not a miserable person. I'm quite happy and content with all I've been blessed with after what I can only describe as a not so pleasant childhood.

I'll address two misconceptions the pissed off e-mailer wrote about in his/her vicious note:

(1) No one pays me to write. No one is "showing me the money" (thanks for the Jerry Maguire reference, though. I really enjoyed it;-). Moneys I receive in one year from commissions on purchases stemming from this site do not amount to one month's car note. I started this blog to help other handbag lovers and web shoppers get the information retail websites will never share with them. I don't want other women to get duped by false info and pretty pictures. I never expected to get payed for what I write, not do I now. All I do on this site, I do myself. From research to writing, it's all me. Now I have Mary Jo Matsumoto's help with the latter, and I'm grateful beyond words for her contributions.

(2) I'm not rich or even slightly well-off. I live in a modest home (where I write from) and take care of two small children as well as my 85 yr old in-laws (one of which is a wheel-chair bound Alzheimer patient). If one more person assumes that I'm some pampered, bon-bon popping woman because I write about and own designer handbags, I might just burst.

I'm tempted to apologize to all the readers that aren't sending me scathing e-mails for this rant, but I know you'll understand why e-mails like that might get under my skin. I enjoy what I do, and I don't get why other people feel the need to turn my enjoyment into misery.

To the reader who's fed up with me and my "useless opinions", stop reading them. I'm sure you can find better things to do with your time on the web.

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8 Responses to "No One is "Showing Me the Money""
  1. gail said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    Dania, I think this is just a testament to the amount of vitriol brewing in the world and how the internet has become the prime place for it to be spewed. It is really easy for cowards and haters to rant when it is from the confines of their holes and behind the safety of a keyboard. I suspect people like this have absolutely no life or social skills whatsoever - since they are miserable, everyone should be miserable. They don't deserve a second thought beyond that.

    Although I don't know you personally, I can tell as much from your writing that you are a very gifted writer, whether it be about the most intellectual of matters or purses. I hold entrepeneurs like yourself in high regard and think it is great that you are able to do what you do and love doing it!

    Keep it up!

  2. Purse Pixie said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    Dania, I am so sorry you received something like that. Please know that I really appreciate the work you put into each post and your willingness to share with other readers and bloggers.

    Keep up the good work and don't let this one jerk get you down.

  3. Gina said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    Yikes. I don't know why people do that sort of thing. I am always so surprised when I come across it nonetheless. It's so much easier to be nice.
    Anyway, I am new to your blog. I love bags.

    Have a pleasant day.
    Gina

  4. Michael St. James said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    WOW! I'm sorry that you're receiving these emails Dania and if I've learned anything from my experiences over the last 9 months, it's the mere fact that all you can do is ignore the bull****! Blogging has become so corporate as well as competitive and frankly quite boring. I don't get it! I think the hugely successful blogs [and their readers] that have become cash cows are ruining it for those of us that just want to have fun and write about subject matter that we love....BAGS!

  5. Nina Styles said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    Wow Dania this is ridiculous. I can't believe people these days. If you don't agree with someone that doesn't give you reason to insult them. There are always people who will try to bring you down. You have an immense knowledge of bags and I am glad that you are sharing it with the world.

  6. Haute Girl said...
    Friday, March 26, 2010

    That's awful Dania! I'm really sorry to hear that. I have also received nasty emails and people fail to understand blogging about bags is just simple entertainment! There are so many issues in the world that we should be concerned about. If they put as much energy into solving the world's problems, rather than bashing handbag bloggers, the world would be a much better place! Keep doing what you're doing, I love your blog and your insights!

  7. EllaBrody said...
    Saturday, March 27, 2010

    I have read your blog today and the comments and I can't understand why people think it's OK to write something "anonymously" that they wouldn't EVER say to you in person. I agree with you - if they don't like your blog (I do :), there are PLENTY of other things they could be doing (I'm sure they are helping the poor, blind, etc.) or reading on the internet. I enjoy reading your blog and it doesn't matter to me how you know about the bags - just that you do. I am not a rich bon-bon eating woman either so am very careful with where I spend my handbag money. I get a lot of information from your blog and enjoy the pictures of the purses. I have on occasion purchased a handbag because of your advice. Sigh! I know it's hard but you can't let the bullies get to you. Keep writing!

  8. Mary Jo from TrustYourStyle said...
    Monday, March 29, 2010

    Dania, I tried to leave a comment over the weekend but my mac was acting up and it didn't go through. I just wanted to say I'm sorry that this is happening--I think most bloggers do get these kinds of emails at some point or another. It's always "Anonymous" because that's most angry thoughtless people are too self absorbed to own up to their own remarks. I hope you can forget about them and move on!
    xo Mary Jo

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